![]() ![]() I'm freed up from certain childcare demands This flexibility feels like my most significant contribution as a breadwinner and a great gift that I can give someone. Maybe he'll choose to pursue a dream job, experiment in new fields, volunteer, or not return to work at all. Instead, he has the liberty to explore his passions and interests without the pressure of being the sole provider. He's not boxed into traditional career paths or rigid timelines. It often indicates a user profile.Īs our family's day-to-day demands evolve, my role as the primary financial provider will eventually open up options for my husband. Your husband may think far more of you for being so accommodating and you are not giving his family ammunition to use against you.Account icon An icon in the shape of a person's head and shoulders. Use these valuable hours to catch up with friends for coffee or lunch and enjoy a bit of freedom. Your husband and child spending a few hours here and there with them is not going to affect your life in the slightest. Let your husband and child interact with his family, you've tried, it just doesn't work so forget about trying to be accepted by them, sadly that boat has sailed. We just can't all be loved by everyone or think the same way and anyway, life would be extremely boring if we did. Yes, there may be reasons why they won't accept you, past lovers…some older people can have a selective memory about free love in the 60s unless of course she was rather dull and didn't partake! Another reason may be the way you bring up their grandchild, how you ended up with their son, a mother's jealousy over you taking her son, the list is endless and quite frankly just too involved to be bothered with. ![]() What To Expect When You're Expecting - 2012. What you have to remember, annoying as it is, is that this is your husband's child too and he is entitled to take the baby to see its grandparents if they get on. In your mail you say you will not beg them to see your child, that they will ignore you but be all over your little one, so your child and husband are not part of this problem. Apparently, he was the problem and as they said, there were a lot of wasted years where they missed seeing our daughter as a baby and young child. Eventually, they contacted me wanting to see the two of us after my separation from their son. It was most annoying and I too couldn't for the life of me think what I had done to deserve this treatment but, everybody is entitled to have their own opinion and we all survived the unpleasantness. I honestly couldn't understand what was going on and the whole thing took up way too much unnecessary space in my head. My in-laws didn't see our daughter until she was ten years old. I can relate to where you're coming from. The problem here is you're related to them by marriage so they're not quite so easy to dispense with! In short, we are going to meet people throughout life that we just can't take to and that's fine, we give them a wide berth and move on. It became a whole different ball game once you were going to have his child, you were there for the long haul and, even if things didn't work out, you were always going to be tied to the family through your child. Maybe your mother-in-law had hoped, even though you were marrying her son, that you might get bored and move on. Sadly, the very best thing you can do is accept that not everyone in our lives is going to love us. Tina's response: Pic: Tina Koumarianos/Instagramįirstly, all problems to EVOKE.ie are anonymous so don't worry about that. I'm just wondering about advice, what you would do, and where do I go from here? Please keep me anonymous. I didn't want to beg anyone to see my child, there's more than enough love on my side of the family. They have been asked to come down and visit us but they refuse and there's not much more I can do. That was all she said until I announced I was pregnant and then she stopped talking to me. ![]() My mother-in-law did make a snide remark to me before our wedding about me having quite a few ex-partners before I met her son and that some people might think I was 'a tart' which was very upsetting but I ignored her, I didn't even tell my husband so as not to cause trouble. I do know that I could just not go, I could let my husband go with our child and I could stay away because I really don't want to have anything to do with them. This situation is horrible, I just don't feel comfortable going to his family's events so they can ignore me and be all over my husband and our child. ![]()
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